Gratitude

The Turkey Isn’t the Only Thing You Should Be Planning This Thanksgiving. Look, I know what you’re thinking. “It’s Thanksgiving! I’m supposed to be arguing about politics, perfecting my green bean casserole, and pretending I enjoy watching football—not thinking about my mortality! But hear me out: nothing says “I love you” quite like making sure your loved ones don’t have to fight over your stuff while simultaneously navigating their grief.

The Gift That Keeps on Giving (Even When You Can’t). This Thanksgiving, while you’re counting your blessings and your carbs, consider giving your family the ultimate gift: an estate plan. It’s like a love letter, except instead of poetry, it’s full of legal documents and clear instructions about who gets Grandma’s antique gravy boat. Think about it. Your family gathers around the table, holding hands, expressing gratitude for one another. Someone says, “I’m thankful for Mom’s famous pumpkin pie.” Another chimes in, “And I’m grateful Dad finally got that will notarized!” Chef’s kiss…voila!. That’s the kind of wholesome content we’re going for here.

Why Estate Planning Is Actually the Most Loving Thing You Can Do. Here’s the uncomfortable truth: if you don’t create an estate plan, the state will create one for you. And let me tell you, the state has never met your family and has terrible taste in who should inherit what.

An Estate plan is essential for some of the following reasons:

- Sparing your loved ones from legal nightmares when they should be mourning and healing

- Making your wishes crystal clear so Uncle Bob can’t claim you “definitely would have wanted” him to have the boat

- Protecting minor children by designating guardians you actually trust

- Avoiding family feuds that turn Thanksgiving dinners awkward for generations to come

- Ensuring your legacy reflects your values, whether that’s supporting causes you care about or making sure your cats live in style.

Getting Started: Easier Than Making That Lattice-Top Pie. The good news? Estate planning doesn’t require a law degree or sacrificing your firstborn. Here’s where to start:

- Make a will. Yes, even if you’re young and think you’re invincible. Plot twist: none of us are.

- Consider a trust if your situation is more complex than a box of store-bought stuffing.

- Designate beneficiaries on your accounts and policies. This is literally filling out a form. You’ve done harder things today.

- Create advance directives like a living will and healthcare power of attorney. Future you (and your family) will be grateful.

- Talk to your family about it. I know, I know—talking about death is less fun than debating whether marshmallows belong on sweet potatoes. But it’s important.

The Real Thanksgiving Miracle. Estate planning: it forces you to think about what really matters. Who do you trust? What do you value? How do you want to be remembered? It’s gratitude in action—acknowledging all you have and ensuring it’s handled with care. Plus, imagine the peace of mind. You can enjoy your turkey knowing that if you accidentally eat too much and enter a tryptophan-induced eternal slumber, your family won’t be left wondering whether you wanted burial or cremation, or if you seriously meant for your nephew to inherit that questionable “art collection.”

This Thanksgiving, Give Thanks and Give Clarity. Make that appointment with your estate planning attorney. Your family might not thank you immediately—mostly because it’s weird to thank someone for planning their own demise—but someday, when they’re not arguing in a probate court about your intentions, they’ll raise a glass in your honor. And really, isn’t that what gratitude is all about? Showing the people we love that we care enough to make their lives easier, even when we’re no longer here to help? Now pass the gravy, and someone please remind me to call that lawyer on Monday.

Happy Thanksgiving! May your turkey be moist, your family drama minimal, and your estate plan comprehensive. And if I can help. I’m here.